That's an extremely rough set of circumstances. D: I'm really glad you were able to get some mental care quickly via that service. Having those sorts of things gnawing at you for days is awful. I hope things continue to improve for you.

Also, as for your idiom, the closest thing I can come up with is "we said they said". I don't think another one exists because it's couched in this silly normative ball of wax around traditional marriages along with expressions like "the ol' ball and chain" and such.